All Weather Play

All Weather Play

“There is no such thing as bad weather”. This is a statement I find all over different parenting and education sites and blogs. We know for a fact that the more time outdoors children have, the better. Outdoor spaces help children learn to balance and coordinate their movements, uneven ground and slopes are amazing teachers for learning how your body moves in space and for spatial awareness in general. Time outside is rich in sensorial experiences, there is so much to see, hear, smell, touch and regardless of the adults efforts to hinder it, taste. Fresh air and vitamin D from the sun on our skin is a mood booster, a sleep aid, and a rejuvenator. We think better and therefore learn better when we have an adequate amount of time to move our bodies, and be outdoors. These are all objectively positive things, but something that I find is not mentioned enough is that while it is true there is no such thing as bad weather (although perhaps there is potentially dangerous weather), there is a considerable amount of work that is involved in all weather outdoor play. 

Getting tiny humans bundled up to go outside in the freezing cold winter, only to have them beg to come in ten minutes later can make it feel pointless. Wrapping them up in rain suits and rubber boots only to realize that each rainy day play potentially means a load of muddy and grassy laundry feels overwhelming. Spraying or rubbing in layer after layer of sunscreen knowing that every loose blade of grass and that the beloved sand in the sandbox is about to coat your children and require immediate bathing and floor cleaning can feel repulsive.

I provide home childcare a few days a week and on those days I know that the above applies not only to my own children but also to three or four additional tiny humans! There is significant work involved, and in some cases an actual workout (you work up a real sweat getting five to six toddlers bundled in snow gear!)

But here is the most important point in this whole post. It is worth it, and it is necessary! There are also so many learning experiences that can be involved even in just the dressing part, let alone the outdoor learning. In the winter there are plenty of opportunities to practice self dressing. We often spend longer getting dressed in the winter, than we do playing outside! This is the time to practice zippers, identifying which boot belongs to which foot, and learning to do the coat flip trick. Every time you go outside the children get to practice these skills, and generally they don’t enjoy the long dress up sessions either and are motivated to learn to do it independently! 

After playing in some mud and puddles on a rainy day there is an opportunity for children to notice the mess in brings, to involve them in the laundry, the sweeping and the mopping. Toddlers and preschoolers generally love these activities, they learn a lot and it makes the entire experience an educational play time! Not just the part that we consider play time, but the part we consider work as well. Besides the rainy days are the best days to go observing worms and snails, and the birds that follow. 

Those hot summer days can be made much easier by ending each play session with a sprinkler game, kiddie pool or hosing down. They may need a bath afterwards but there are ways to bundle bath time with either chores or play. Maybe they sit in the bath and have a popsicle while you relax and read. This is amazing for their nervous systems, is mess free, and gives you some downtime. Maybe before bringing them in squirt some dish soap all over the tub and shower walls and then throw the kids in with some scrub brushes. They will have a blast scrubbing the soap and making crazy, soapy foam and when they are done both the shower and the children are clean! It is safe, the kids enjoy it, and it knocks an annoying chore off the to do list. When my kids do this I just spray it down after they get out with a leave on shower cleanser and everything (and everyone) is left shiny clean and smelling great. I also find that summer picnics help cut down on the cleanup, if you know it will just be a brief lunch break before heading back outside why not eat outside and save the mess that will be tracked in? I like to set up a water dispenser for hand washing outside or we use the hose so that besides bathroom breaks we can spend the whole day outside.

Two more things I have been trying to work on as I attempt to add more and more all weather play to our days is better equipping myself, and letting go of the house mess. I realized that one of the big reasons I avoided winter play was because my kids were bundled up well, but I was always cold as I did not own snowpants. In rainy weather I felt like a soggy mess without effective rain boots. In the summer I was forgetting to reapply sunscreen and was a sore mess after a day of play. I have been working on better preparing myself for all weather play and seeing it as part of the Montessori adults work- to prepare the adult. Likewise I have been working on preparing the environment. I made some changes to where we dress and undress for outdoor play. Made it part of my daily routine whether or not we go out to vacuum and mop our entry ways and main floor. This change has allowed me to completely let go of the mess because I know that no matter what that space will be cleaned at the end of the day as it is everyday. This change has actually allowed for us to do a lot more messy play and art as well as the space we come in and out of is our dining room, which is also where our art shelf is set up. The dining room has become the “mess zone” where we make the most mess every day, but because it would need cleaning either way after meals it is not feeling like any extra work for me to maintain the space! 

Prepare yourself, prepare your home, and take the kids outside no matter the weather. It is worth it for everyone involved!

Montessori Sound Cylinders DIY

Montessori Sound Cylinders DIY

Today I want to talk about an extremely easy DIY version of a classic Montessori material called the Sound Cylinders or Sound Boxes. In the classic material you would have two sets of six wooden cylinders. One set would have a red top, and one set would have a blue top. The goal of the material is to have the child match the red and blue cylinders into pairs that create the same sound when shaken. There are actually a number of other activities that can be done with the cylinders but this is the activity that seems to be the best known. A key part of the material is a small colored dot on the bottom of the cylinders. Each pair of cylinders has a matching dot or number on the bottom to allow for the child to self correct as they work. When I decided to DIY this activity I picked up a set of plastic containers from the Dollar Tree and everything else I used I already had on hand.

The containers I found were transparent so my first step was to cover the containers in tape so that my kids would not be able to see the contents. We want to isolate the skill of auditory discrimination rather than having the child simply match by visuals. Once the containers were covered I used washi tape in two different colors to mark my different sets. I then put matching stickers on the bottoms to mark my pairs. Finally I filled the containers with different fillers- beans, lentils, quinoa, rice, and beads. Make sure your matching containers have the same amount of filler in them or it will impact the sound and they will not match. I also hot glued my containers shut because of the younger kids I have in my home, but if I was making this for a home with preschoolers and up I would have left them unsealed, leaving the option open to change the sounds and even have the children change it up themselves!

This is a fun little activity and only takes ten minutes to assemble. I do not think it is worth the $35 my local Montessori store is asking for it, but for the $1.25 I spent on my DIY definitely worth it! Now that Mr. Man has mastered the matches I have actually been thinking I may switch out my color match stickers on the bottom for numbers. This would allow the activity to also be self correcting in arranging the cylinders from softest to loudest. The reason I went with colors initially was because Little Miss is not familiar with number symbols yet, but I have noticed she does not care to self correct anyways. She prefers to work on them together at the moment and so that leaves me space to adjust them for my four year old’s needs.

 

A Fishy Arrangement

A Fishy Arrangement

Now that Mr. Man is four he has been seeking ways to take on more responsibility around our home. He is seeing himself as a capable contributor and wants to have his own to do lists and chores most days. I even had the opportunity to hear him say, “I’ve got dinner tonight mom!”, and he did! He has prepared our dinners (with guidance and support) a few times now. He sees these new capabilities as evidence that he is getting older and more responsible and used them in his reasoning for why he is ready for his own pet. We have three birds in our family but Mr. Man does not see them as his pets, and they make him too nervous to interact with in a meaningful way. Our Green Cheek Conure is still very nippy and unpredictable so while Mr. Man would love to help care for her, and train her, he is very nervous. Over the course of a few weeks we entertained different imaginings of the pets he could have. He considered dogs but he was concerned they would scare him when they bark. He mentioned maybe a lizard but he quickly changed his mind when we looked up what they would eat. He was very excited about the idea of a hamster and we imagined for a while what that would be like. He realized while we thought about it that he wouldn’t want to hold the hamster, and he didn’t really want to care for it either. He really just wanted to build it mazes and watch it solve them. We agreed that a hamster probably would not be a great fit. One evening I was at a pet store on my own and I saw a beautiful Betta fish. I decided to surprise him with a pet that I knew he would be capable of fully providing for (although with the knowledge that it was still my responsibility). When we got home Mr. Man was thrilled to set up the aquarium for his new pet Fishy the betta. We did it together, cleaning the gravel, setting up the décor and plants, assembling the filter. When the tank was finished cycling and at an appropriate temperature he very carefully released his new friend into his tank. We decided to keep the tank in the living space to ensure Fishy received supervised care. For now Mr. Man is very happy checking the temperature of the water and feeding Fishy daily, and in a week or so I will introduce him to the other big fish care task of a water change. I have always enjoyed keeping Betta fish and I am enjoying watching Mr. Man care for and observe his fish. We will likely extend this experience into a research activity about Bettas. There are so many options- we could look into what foods they can eat as a supplement to their diet. We could learn about their origins and how they live in the wild. We could jump into a unit study on fish and underwater life in general. It will depend on where the most interest lies! 

Sibling Dynamics In Homeschooling

Sibling Dynamics In Homeschooling

Sibling relationships can be tricky to navigate in a Montessori homeschool environment. It is often an impulse for both the older and younger siblings to interrupt one another’s work, to try to help when help is not desired, or to touch materials out of turn. I think it can sometimes be tough for adults to control our impulses while observing the sibling dynamics. We want to protect their focus, we want them to have the opportunity to figure out tough work and persevere. I know that I often want to jump into what I interpret as a budding conflict before big feelings become involved but in doing so I believe we are robbing all children involved of a learning opportunity. Lately I have been trying to remind myself to sit back and observe. Guide if needed, and when invited but for the most part I am trying to trust my children to practice the social skills that we have been building. It has been incredibly rewarding. I have learned that Mr Man (4) can maintain his boundaries verbally fairly well. He knows how to ask for space, how to express that he is not finished with a material and to my surprise he knows how to redirect Little Miss (1) very effectively. I have learned that Little Miss has internalized much of the expectations for the homeschool room. I have seen her put her hands behind her back to observe Mr Man working to avoid the temptation to touch. I have noticed that she is showing more and more the ability to wait her turn. I have also seen that she is less interested lately in the cause and effect reactions that come from bugging Mr Man. I am starting to think it was not about his reactions at all, but perhaps she was looking for my reactions. The less involved in resolving their conflicts I become the less conflict they seem to have and they resolve their conflicts much quicker. I have also started seeing beautiful moments like the one pictured here where Mr Man gives his own lessons to Little Miss with so much patience and grace. I think the biggest take away is that it is their relationship that they are building. I share with them general family values around how to treat people and interact respectfully but beyond that I need to step back and let them build their own unique relationship. 

Not Just Shelf Work

Not Just Shelf Work

Often when people hear the word Montessori, or are new to Montessori they tend to place a lot of focus and energy on the appearance of their shelves. Curating a beautiful and functional indoor space is wonderful but it is even more important to make sure you spend plenty of time outdoors! As Maria Montessori said, “Let the children be free; encourage them; let them run outside when it is raining; let them remove their shoes when they find a puddle of water; and, when the grass of the meadows is damp with dew, let them run on it and trample it with their bare feet; let them rest peacefully when a tree invites them to sleep beneath it’s shade; let them shout and laugh when the sun wakes them in the morning as it wakes every living creature that divides its day between waking and sleeping.” This quote sounds very different than the conversations often had in Montessori online communities where the focus is so often on cute tray work, and getting a child to do their activities “correctly”. When you are having a tough day with a child then head outside. It is almost guaranteed to help both you and your child feel and do better. If your child is struggling to focus then go outside, save the shelf work for after a good chunk of fresh air and freedom to make big movements. If it is really cold out then bundle up, throw some Vaseline or Burts bees on those little cheeks and go for a brief walk. If it is too hot out then bring some spray bottles, turn on a hose, or fill a big container for a makeshift pool or water transfer game. It doesn’t need to be a long time spent outside in the tough weather, but putting a bigger focus on getting outside than on the shelves can make a positive difference in everyone’s day!

Preparing for Preschoolers

Preparing for Preschoolers

Imagine waking up in the morning full of energy, and ready to start your day. You go to get clothes from your closet but find that they are behind a door that you cannot get open. After struggling to open the door and finally succeeding you find your clothes are all hung up way too high. You cannot reach no matter how hard you try. You give up on the idea of getting dressed for now and head to the bathroom. You have a funny taste in your mouth and all you can think about is brushing your teeth. The bathroom door is locked and has a doorknob cover on it. You try and try but there is no getting that door open. You really need to go pee, you know that you are supposed to go in the potty but the potty is also behind this locked door. You know your parents are sleeping but there is nothing left for you to do to help yourself so you have no choice but to wake them. They are not happy to be woken so early, and you are feeling sensitive after already experiencing so much discouragement today. 

I think as adults we can forget what it feels like to be small. To have so many things out of reach and to so reliant on adults. We forget what it feels like to be hungry and not able to do anything about it. We forget the pride that comes with accomplishing things independently the first few times. It takes a little extra thinking and planning but it is so worth it to find ways to prepare your home to be accessible to your children. Especially in their bedrooms. When you are planning and setting up or adjusting your preschooler’s room consider if they can use what they need to in their rooms. Can they turn on the lights? Can they reach their clothing? Can they put their own clothes away? Can they access tissue to wipe their nose, and do they have a place to put the soiled tissue? These little adjustments can make a world of difference for a preschooler! My four year old takes great pride in his room, and in taking care of himself and his space. He gets himself ready in the morning independently and then he takes a few minutes to make sure his room is tidy before heading downstairs. He is usually the first one in the family ready for the day, and since I know I do not need to provide him any help I can focus on getting myself and Little Miss ready for the day. Little Miss has taken notice of her brother’s ability to get himself ready and she is also starting to attempt more self dressing and we are preparing to make her room more suitable for independence as we know it is so worth it for the whole family.