A Fishy Arrangement

A Fishy Arrangement

Now that Mr. Man is four he has been seeking ways to take on more responsibility around our home. He is seeing himself as a capable contributor and wants to have his own to do lists and chores most days. I even had the opportunity to hear him say, “I’ve got dinner tonight mom!”, and he did! He has prepared our dinners (with guidance and support) a few times now. He sees these new capabilities as evidence that he is getting older and more responsible and used them in his reasoning for why he is ready for his own pet. We have three birds in our family but Mr. Man does not see them as his pets, and they make him too nervous to interact with in a meaningful way. Our Green Cheek Conure is still very nippy and unpredictable so while Mr. Man would love to help care for her, and train her, he is very nervous. Over the course of a few weeks we entertained different imaginings of the pets he could have. He considered dogs but he was concerned they would scare him when they bark. He mentioned maybe a lizard but he quickly changed his mind when we looked up what they would eat. He was very excited about the idea of a hamster and we imagined for a while what that would be like. He realized while we thought about it that he wouldn’t want to hold the hamster, and he didn’t really want to care for it either. He really just wanted to build it mazes and watch it solve them. We agreed that a hamster probably would not be a great fit. One evening I was at a pet store on my own and I saw a beautiful Betta fish. I decided to surprise him with a pet that I knew he would be capable of fully providing for (although with the knowledge that it was still my responsibility). When we got home Mr. Man was thrilled to set up the aquarium for his new pet Fishy the betta. We did it together, cleaning the gravel, setting up the décor and plants, assembling the filter. When the tank was finished cycling and at an appropriate temperature he very carefully released his new friend into his tank. We decided to keep the tank in the living space to ensure Fishy received supervised care. For now Mr. Man is very happy checking the temperature of the water and feeding Fishy daily, and in a week or so I will introduce him to the other big fish care task of a water change. I have always enjoyed keeping Betta fish and I am enjoying watching Mr. Man care for and observe his fish. We will likely extend this experience into a research activity about Bettas. There are so many options- we could look into what foods they can eat as a supplement to their diet. We could learn about their origins and how they live in the wild. We could jump into a unit study on fish and underwater life in general. It will depend on where the most interest lies! 

It’s a Math Problem

It’s a Math Problem

I want to set up as complete a Montessori learning environment as I can but sometimes the costs of materials is a little, or a lot out of my budget. There are some activities that I find a little redundant and I skip altogether but generally I attempt a DIY or dollar store version whenever I can. Mr Man (4) is very interested in math lately, he requests that I write out math problems for him to solve multiple times a day. I looked into getting the math problems and solutions boxes from my local Montessori supply store but at $40 per box and four boxes it seemed outrageous to me. So I went to Dollar Tree where I knew they had math flash cards. I bought one box of each- Addition, Subtraction, Division, and Multiplication. What I like about these flash cards is that the answer is on the back so the activities I made could be self correcting. I looked through the cards and removed any problems that had numbers beyond the scope of our current materials and then created some color coded folders for each set. I made a matching notebook with the same colors and blank grid paper inside. Now whenever Mr Man wants to do math he grabs a folder of problems, and his notebook and whatever other tools he needs and can do the activities entirely independently. He takes great pride in being able to do works like these without my help, and I am very pleased with my $4 solution to the $120 problem boxes.

Along the same idea we wanted to start looking into racks and tubes for division, as Mr Man is still pretty new to division we only wanted the very first set and I had received an incomplete set from a closing daycare. I wasn’t quite ready to give Mr Man the complete lesson but he really wanted to use the tubes. Unfortunately since the set was incomplete I wanted to fill in the missing pieces before I introduced it. He was very patient as I looked into the materials and tried to source the missing pieces. I was looking at over $100 again which to me seems a little silly just to teach division. I wandered around Dollarama looking for a solution and came across a set of 16 tubes of glass beads. I had no interest in the beads but the tubes looked like a really similar size to the ones I had at home. I was thrilled to find that they are a perfect match! They fit well in the racks, they hold 10 beads a piece, one on top of another and for 16 tubes I paid $2.50. I went back and grabbed enough to put aside for when we jumped into long division and gave the first set to Mr Man. Another dollar store win, and a material I had intended to skip solved. 

Sibling Dynamics In Homeschooling

Sibling Dynamics In Homeschooling

Sibling relationships can be tricky to navigate in a Montessori homeschool environment. It is often an impulse for both the older and younger siblings to interrupt one another’s work, to try to help when help is not desired, or to touch materials out of turn. I think it can sometimes be tough for adults to control our impulses while observing the sibling dynamics. We want to protect their focus, we want them to have the opportunity to figure out tough work and persevere. I know that I often want to jump into what I interpret as a budding conflict before big feelings become involved but in doing so I believe we are robbing all children involved of a learning opportunity. Lately I have been trying to remind myself to sit back and observe. Guide if needed, and when invited but for the most part I am trying to trust my children to practice the social skills that we have been building. It has been incredibly rewarding. I have learned that Mr Man (4) can maintain his boundaries verbally fairly well. He knows how to ask for space, how to express that he is not finished with a material and to my surprise he knows how to redirect Little Miss (1) very effectively. I have learned that Little Miss has internalized much of the expectations for the homeschool room. I have seen her put her hands behind her back to observe Mr Man working to avoid the temptation to touch. I have noticed that she is showing more and more the ability to wait her turn. I have also seen that she is less interested lately in the cause and effect reactions that come from bugging Mr Man. I am starting to think it was not about his reactions at all, but perhaps she was looking for my reactions. The less involved in resolving their conflicts I become the less conflict they seem to have and they resolve their conflicts much quicker. I have also started seeing beautiful moments like the one pictured here where Mr Man gives his own lessons to Little Miss with so much patience and grace. I think the biggest take away is that it is their relationship that they are building. I share with them general family values around how to treat people and interact respectfully but beyond that I need to step back and let them build their own unique relationship. 

Free to Create- a Toddler Friendly Art Space

Free to Create- a Toddler Friendly Art Space

I have redesigned and relocated our art space more times than I can even recall. I have tried free access to all the supplies on an Art Cart. I have tried a shelf with individual activities contained on trays. I have set up a place for art in my office, in the playroom and as of now in our dining room. This is where it has been the longest and I suspect is where it will remain for quite a few years. The dining room becomes messy after meals and already requires more clean up than any other room in my home on a daily basis, so adding the art shelf to the room did not increase the need to clean up. The kids have free access to majority of our materials (although some are on a rotation), and I occasionally provide a tray activity which is designed to engage a particular skill. Occasionally I add a thematic activity or two but I aim to keep the activities as process based as possible. The goal is for the children to be experimenting, learning, and expressing their creativity. Sometimes it can be a challenge to provide the variety that I want to provide to my eldest when his younger sister, and my younger home daycare children are also using the space. What I have found the most helpful is utilizing height. The scissors, more expensive paints, and anything sharp I keep on the highest shelves where Mr Man can access them, but the toddlers need to ask me for assistance. The lower shelves contain plenty of materials suitable to the toddlers to use whenever they please! 

Stop Overthinking It!

Stop Overthinking It!

It can be easy to get swept away by all the beautiful Instagram pictures of shelves perfectly curated for children. To see blogs about homeschooling families who have a morning tea time with poetry daily. To compare yourself to these families with the expensive but authentic materials. I see it often on different social media platforms- “All my toddler wants to do is open and close this cupboard. What activity can I make or purchase to encourage this skill?” My suggestion is to let them open and close the cupboard. Let them find ways to engage with their environment that are meaningful to them! It is not a planned or purchased activity, but it is still valuable to the child otherwise they would not be repeating it. This is just one example but there are many others that are similar, children doing harmless activities and parents wanting to replicate that action with a toy. Children are not limited to educational toys to play and learn. Everything that they interact with throughout the day provides information. Whether it is sensory information, or cause and effect observations or even activities like self feeding which practice fine and gross motor skills as well as engaging the child’s proprioceptive skills. 

The other day my daughter wanted to draw with Mr Mans gel pens but she could not get the caps off. I wanted a few minutes to myself to drink my coffee and read the news so when she interrupted me for help the third time I realized that I needed to adjust the accessibility for her. I removed all the caps from the pens and let her continue drawing while I read. Afterwards I cleaned up from breakfast and as I was tidying I noticed the pens were nearly all capped. Not only that she had matched all the colors on the lids to the pens. Color sorting has been a big interest for Little Miss lately so I was happy to see that she had discovered her own color match activity. I was also amused to see that her paper looked very similar to how it looked before I uncapped all the pens, she had lost interest in the drawing itself. I probably could have jumped in and made it into a whole color identifying lesson (had I been paying attention) but that would have likely robbed her of that self chosen activity, the pride of accomplishing it, and very likely could have ended the activity prematurely. 

I want to share one other example of an opportunity to overthink it and my simple but effective solution. I needed to prepare dinner and Little Miss was underfoot. Normally I would invite her to help but on this day she had no interest in helping and just wanted me to carry her. Not an option at that time unfortunately. She wanted to be near me and I knew I needed her engaged in something if I was to get anything accomplished. So I scanned the room and noticed her toy teapot on the floor. A minute later she was happily seated with her tea set practicing pouring water (a skill I was trying to work on often with her) while I prepped dinner a few feet away. I did not need anything fancy, it was not planned. It was just using what we had on hand in a way I knew would distract her. This activity actually drew Mr Man in as well and kept both children engaged for half an hour. 

 

Learning to Recognize Initial Sounds

Learning to Recognize Initial Sounds

When children begin to become interested in learning to read or write the first games played in Montessori homes are usually sound games. I spy but with initial, middle or ending sounds depending on what skills the child has in this area. “I spy something that starts with a “buh” for example when you want he child to identify a butterfly. Many homes also enjoy using small objects that go along with each initial sound. That is what I want to discuss today. My four year old has known letter sounds for two years now, but he is still learning to slow down and listen to hear sounds in spoken words. That is where this game came in, because he desperately wanted to learn but did not want to work with the sound game or sandpaper letters anymore. Since he speaks so quickly he was finding the moveable alphabet frustrating as well. I set up the initial sound boxes first using a hardware storage shelf from Princess Auto. Each compartment is labeled with a letter and contains a number of objects that start with that letter. Personally I change the objects up on occasion so that certain sounds are not associated with only specific objects ( I have known many children who see an a and assume the word must be apple because they have had it drilled into them. A is for apple). At our first introduction we went through the different compartments and identified the objects inside. The next time we did the activity I asked him why a group of objects were in a compartment together, and we said the names again until it dawned on him that they had the same initial sound. He went through all the compartments with excitement and listened to initial sounds carefully as we said each word. The next time he pulled this activity down he dumped every single object out. I was a little worried that he would become frustrated but I stayed back and observed, ready if he needed me. He went through every single object naming it and placing them back in the correct compartments. When he was finished, he dumped it and did it again. After a while I noticed that he was using the moveable alphabet with more confidence, he had figured out how to slow down and really listen to the sounds he was making. I have yet to rearrange the bins for ending sounds as his interests shifted but that will be my next step. 

Little miss is also very interested in letters, she has a strong desire to use her brothers primary materials. Since she is not at all ready for any of these language materials I have been keeping mostly the sandpaper letters within her reach. It has not been  enough for her, she wants similar materials to her brother. She wants letters to manipulate and small objects to explore. Since we were finished with the sound boxes for now I adjusted and made an activity that met her desires without misusing Mr Mans materials. Generally I would prefer not to introduce letters to such a young child but in this case the activity is mostly about in and out more than the letters. I found some dollar store wooden letters, and some organza bags. Each organza bag contains one letter and one object with a corresponding initial sound. I set out two bags in a basket and Little Miss enjoyed taking them in and out of the bags. She also loved the access to the little wooden letters (I just wish they were lower case!) I am not putting too much emphasis on the letters right now, but when she shows them to me I will say the letter sound. I am noticing that she is remembering some of the letter sounds. Mr Man also enjoys this makeshift activity but he likes to grab a handful out of the tub and work through them all at once.